While it may seem obvious that we cannot control everything when we look from the outside, it's astonishing how many things we try to control in our lives.

Your teammate is not performing up to standards? We have to make them step up. It's just that we can only influence them, not make them.

What to do about it?

Get super clear about what you can truly control and what you cannot control. Then focus your attention and efforts towards the things that you can control and do your best to let go of things that you cannot control.

Make a list of these things and habitually remind yourself what is in your control and outside of your control.